Friday, April 10, 2020

The Trauma of COVID19


Humankind Will Overcome this Virus and Learn From the Experience

The news, social media and the radio stations are all reporting the horror of Covid19 virus. This has caused an increase in fear and panic worldwide. Some people are locked in their homes with friends and families and others are alone with no one to turn to. This isolation can be very frightening for many. We are social beings and we need to have others around us even if we are not communicating with each other. Their presence makes us feel that we are not alone. Before COVID19, when someone was alone, he/she was advised to go for a walk, go to the mall, go to the park, watch a movie or just go out for a meal where you can see others. Today these options are no longer available for people. Isolation is not the only thing that people are dealing with. There are many issues/problems that individuals are encountering as they stay at home. There are the fear and worry about what is happening in our world and no one seems to have the answer.

This uncertainty has created anxiety for many people. There is a feeling of loss, helplessness, and hopelessness as we try to make sense of a senseless situation. This sense of hopelessness increase mental health issues as people are isolated and quarantined at home. After a month or two isolated dealing with fear, the joys of staying home suddenly disappear and home becomes like a prison for many. Our society will be heading to a pandemic of mental illness from the aftermath of Covid19. Communities must be prepared to handle the demand and reach out to “at-risk” individuals to help them cope with this situation.

Covid19 is a traumatic event and individuals will suffer symptoms like the victims of wars and similar disasters. There is also the burden of grief for individuals who have lost loved ones. They are not able to sit by the bedsides of dying loved ones or say goodbye. Also, some are unable to attend funerals or be with close relatives to help them mourn. At the end of this pandemic, our world, lives, finances, and norms will drastically change. The effect of these changes may have some positive and negative consequences.

Whatever happens we know that we must cope with the situation, and everything will work out in the end. Humankind has survived some terrible things from the July 5, 1201 Earthquake in Egypt and Syria, the Black Plague between 1347 -1530, the Indian Famine in 1767, the Irish Potato Famine of 1845-1848, the drought in China between 1867-1879, the Flu Pandemic in 1918-1919, the Yangtze, Yellow and Huai River floods from 1928-1931 in China, The Great Depression in the 1930’s, Chinese Famine 1959-1961, African drought 1981-1984, North Korea famine and floods between 1995-1998, earthquakes, volcanoes, hurricanes, cyclones, tornadoes, wars, and the list goes on. We will survive this virus and Covid19 will be in the history books.

In most cases disasters have brought humankind together as they struggle to find a solution for a common cause. They become resourceful and creative to survive. This is a time in history where the world has the technology and resources to fight through this virus. The sad reality is that some people will die, but billions of people will survive. Scientists and doctors have an idea what we can do to flatten the curve, and there is no cure or solution to the current situation. This is a global pandemic and every nation is working to find a solution. Everyone has a vital part to play in the safety, reduction, and spread of this virus.

As we are isolated at home let this be a learning experience for us. Share memories together, read, play, pray, learn and research new things, meditate, clean and declutter the house, and cook delicious and healthy meals. Let this be a time of laughter and closeness and not a time of fear. Wasting time should not be an option because it will lead to fear, anxiety and depression.

Monday, April 6, 2020

COVID 19 Isolation



The Problems of Self-Isolation with the Family: The Family Drama – Some of the challenges of being confined at home:

Being with family and friends can be a wonderful experience, but it can be a nightmare for many. Before the COVID 19 virus pandemic, people were very busy, and they lived very different lives that may or may not include constant interaction with family members. Some individuals especially teens were already isolated in their rooms and parents did not have much to with them. Today we are mandated by governments and lawmakers to say home. This might have both negative and positive consequences for family. Let us deal with the positive consequences of this stay at home policy:
1.    Families are forced to slow down and sped time with each other
2.    Siblings can learn how to play together
3.    Families can have meals together
4.    They can talk and listen to each other
5.    Clean together – great time to declutter the house
6.    Watch movies, cook, exercise and listen to music
7.    Spouses can spend time together – reconnecting
8.    Pray, read and learn together
9.    Catch up on past time
Some of the negatives are:
1.    It can be difficult to be locked in the same space with others whom you do not want to be with
2.    Spouses may feel tensed and frustrated with each other
3.    Sibling struggle and fight
4.    Worry about job loss
5.    Financial burden for both parents
6.    Added stress about the virus and the fear of being sick
7.    Worry about the future – the fear of the unknown
8.    The burden of working and homeschooling
9.    Struggle with keeping a schedule
10. Tension with teen age children
11. Increase use of electronic – iPhone, iPad, computers
12. Hard to balance play and learn on the computer
13. Difficulty parenting and disciplining children
14. Increase stress and anxiety
15. The increase of child and family abuse - victims are locked up with their abusers
16. Lack of space to be alone without having noisy children in every room

These are some of the challenges and benefits of being at home with children. This has become our new reality and we did not have time to prepare for it. We must change our mindset to help us navigate through the streets of the unknown world. We must understand that no one has the answer right now. This is very new, and we will have trails and errors in the process. We know that humans are very resourceful, intelligent and resilient. This will be another virus and time that will be written in the history book. We should take this time to find peace and comfort for our soul. Do something that you enjoy or try to find something that you can enjoy. There is nothing that we can do about this situation, but we can choose to be content and grateful in every situation. 10 years from today we will be sitting around the table, campfire or bar and talk about our experiences. Let’s make it a pleasant one despite the fear and worry in the world.

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